Fuel your business drive with the healthiest revenge you can get on all the people who try to hold you back.

One of the most tragic things that can happen is to watch someone’s dream get swept away by others who are doing nothing with their lives. It is not only tragic it is defining of the times we live in.

Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out. - Oliver Wendell Holmes

This quote is significant today because, a good friend of mine called me today and we talked about some of the trials he has been going through in order to make his business grow, and change his life.

The dilemma was simple and it is as old as time itself it seems. As he is growing and developing himself and becoming a leader, he is torn between the priorities of his old life and the optimism, strength, and positive future that his new life promises.

His old friends are breaking away from him. He is seeing results in his business and is spending time with new people and he is simply torn. He still cares for his old friends, but his new path and future doesn’t include them. He is moving ahead and they are staying where they are.

I can remember my transition like this so many years ago. Fortunately for me I had the means to simply remove myself from the past by accepting work in other cities. (Through all my travels Chicago was my favorite city by far next to San Diego, where I live now. Some of my most closely held friends are rooted in Chicago, I’ll never forget them.)

I left Chicago with a remarkable set of friends… but  this wasn’t always so easy… In other places like Las Vegas, where I grew up it was painful to separate many ties.

But I have to admit after some time, reflection, and success. Making that break was the most remarkable transition in my life. In fact getting rid of the losers in my life was the most liberating and powerful thing I could have possibly done with my life.

So what will happen with my friend his business and his life? Well only time will tell that tale. But if he follows my example: he will lose the losers in his life and find ways to focus on spending more time with the winners.

For you I have this advice to break away the dead baggage in your life.

So how do we soften the blow when we decide to leave the ones who are holding us back from business success?

Just like the sign shown here on this blog post… choosing to spend time with driven successful people means NOT spending time with people who are holding you back.

It is a decision: The Latin root word for decision means “to cut off”. Meaning there are no other options.

While this is painful sometimes it makes more sense to cut off the cancer and live then to have the cancer kill you entirely.

So how do you deal with this, especially when you’re building your business.

The first thing I would offer is this simple idea. They weren’t really your friends… they were people you settled with being around.

When someone is holding you back in order to cut them off these are the steps you need to take to bring closure.

1. Don’t talk to your friends or family about your business. Even if you’re business is a raging success. (Why? THEY ARE NOT QUALIFIED! They would make HORRIBLE business partners. You want people who are interested, and motivated, not people you have to drag kicking and screaming.)
2. Understand the intent of people/person who tells you that what you’re doing doesn’t work. (They might say it is a scam, is wrong, money is evil, you can’t make it, you don’t know how to do that, you’re being scammed, etc… etc…)
3. Understand that they are really trying to help you. (Yes, it isn’t the help you want. But in all sincerity they are making attempts to protect you, most likely from their past failures. And, the “other” golden rule is: don’t listen to failures.)
4. Spot when someone who has lost their dream is trying to steal your too. (Someone who is not doing better than you is NOT worth listening too. Period. Not if, ands, or buts…)

The healthiest way to get back at people who would steal your dreams.

Become so successful that they have to eat their words…

Become so strong that you could carry them but you won’t (not out of spite, but because you know you can’t carry anyone. You can only teach them how to become stronger and carry themselves.)

Become so stable that you are like stone compared to sand.

So how do you do this?

You set goals, that are realistic, and hit them every single day. When you don’t hit them on day one, do double the work on day two.

Set a goal to generate at least 10 leads a day at first.

Then set one to do 20 a day.

And eventually get to 100 qualified leads per day.

How you are thinking?

I’ll tell you, and it isn’t what you want to hear but I say it because I care enough to make you independent.

Any-Way-You-Can!

If you need to stay up late creating blog posts, articles, and videos… you do that.

If you need to stop eating out, to have money for leads… you do that.

If you need to sell your favorite baseball card collection to buy adwords educational material… you do that.

If you need to work overtime to make the extra money… you do that.

What ever it takes. With no excuses and no whining. You have to make this more important than anything…

When you submit and give into your business like this… then something remarkable will happen…

You will acquire skills you can share, and because you’re more valuable people will start helping you get leads. And, it will get easier.

Once that happens, you will be stronger and it will become easier to attract leads naturally. And, it will get easier.

Then it will get easier and easier, and you will need only to keep doing the right thing to help others.

And when your income reaches the point you can leave your day job forever.

You will have your revenge… only it won’t be the bitter taste of revenge that comes from anger, frustration, and being jaded.

Instead it will be the kind of revenge that is best.

You will be in a position to carry your critics. And, instead you will end up leading them because they will come to you.

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